My thoughts are still the same, my environment the same, the people around me the same. I am the same.
So what’s different?
I reached out: I called old acquaintances – people whom I connected with, or felt inspired by; people I had questions for (specifically relating to my/their situation) and I talked to them. I got inspired by other people: I watched their YouTube videos and read their books and articles.
Today, I’m impervious to perceived putdowns and other people’s opinions on me, because I know that there are others out there who ‘get’ me.
Socialising is key. Best over the phone, better face to face.
You need quality people, not quantity. I know it’s hard to find people you can connect with, but keep trying.
Out of the hundreds of people that you meet, if you put yourself out there (I go for peer support sessions and visit Clubheal even though 99% of the people there are not necessarily ‘my scene’) you WILL find someone, just one person out of the hundreds you can click with.
So go, go places you DON’T wanna go. Be with people who bore you. People whose company you DON’T enjoy. Because you might find you CAN make a connection if you try – if not 10 out of 10 times, at least 1 out of 10 times. And one friend is enough.
The more you do it, the more ‘one friend’s you’ll find.
And you’ll be happier.
Update: I am now that friend, for me. I now enjoy going out with me and listening to me speak (the internal monologue inside my head).
How did this happen? Time passed, and I grew with each experience that I learned from, and I became someone whose company and thoughts/words I can enjoy.
And the best part? I’m usually available when I need to speak to me. :p