‘It took me Twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don’t have that kinda time to convince somebody else’ – Daniel Franzese
As a person with mental illness, I like to guess what others are thinking and feeling, especially about me.
Example, “She is frowning beside me. OMG she is irritated at me.”
Or, “She did not reply my texts. YIKES I said something offensive again.”
And so on…
I have to learn to challenge such fears. Maybe my friend is busy with her children or with her work. Maybe my colleague is thinking hard or worried about her own personal problems..
Perhaps even confront my own fear. OK SHE DOES NOT LIKE ME RIGHT NOW. OK I SAID SOMETHING I SHOULD NOT HAVE. (Breathe.) That was not too bad. How can I make it better? Can I apologise if I truly had done something wrong? Can I improve my behaviour if I really had been irresponsible or rude? There is surely something to work on that can better the situation, inshaAllah. There is hope!!!
I can do this.
You can do this.
We can do this.
Written by Sumaiyah Mohamed