‘It took me Twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don’t have that kinda time to convince somebody else’ – Daniel Franzese

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As a person with mental illness, I like to guess what others are thinking and feeling, especially about me.

Example, “She is frowning beside me. OMG she is irritated at me.

Or, “She did not reply my texts. YIKES I said something offensive again.

And so on…

I have to learn to challenge such fears. Maybe my friend is busy with her children or with her work. Maybe my colleague is thinking hard or worried about her own personal problems..

Perhaps even confront my own fear. OK SHE DOES NOT LIKE ME RIGHT NOW. OK I SAID SOMETHING I SHOULD NOT HAVE. (Breathe.) That was not too bad. How can I make it better? Can I apologise if I truly had done something wrong? Can I improve my behaviour if I really had been irresponsible or rude? There is surely something to work on that can better the situation, inshaAllah. There is hope!!!

I can do this.

You can do this.

We can do this.

Bismillah 🙂

 

Written by Sumaiyah Mohamed

2 thoughts on “Challenge Yo’ Fears Babe!

  1. Peace to you Sumaiyah and I hope you remember me, aunty sharini from our first and last meeting with fondness just as i remember you. After starting with the name of Allah, the most Merciful and Compassionate, we can try to proceed by thinking well of ourselves and His other creations. This really sets our mood for the day, InsyaAllah. I’ve learnt that overthinking and over-analysing things, especially with what we can’t control, can be counter-productive, and could even lead us astray, na’udzubillah, such as making ill assumptions about situations in which we find ourselves and others. So if we do find that our dealings havent been right, we quickly set it aright by simple things like texting to say sorry and then we must keep smiling. Sometimes clearing up the air is more good for us than those we think we’ve offended. I’ve been told that i over apologise too, so that’s a signal from others whom we think we’ve offended, that really, it didn’t occur to them until we pointed our mistakes. The good from all this is, it shows that you want to be a better person in your dealings with others. But it could be even easier for us if we stop and ask if that is worrying too much. The wisdom of thinking well of Allah and His creations always amazes me.

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